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Mom: Bolingbrook Student Took Her Life After Being Bullied On Facebook

Bolingbrook High School sophomore Kenyatta Parker hanged herself March 13 after several nasty comments were posted on a video of her, her mother told the Sun-Times.

A Bolingbrook High School student who hanged herself March 13 left a 12-page suicide note detailing how she was bullied on Facebook, her mother, Yolanda Parker, recently told the Chicago Sun-Times

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Kenyatta Parker died this month at the age of 15. She was a sophomore honors student at Bolingbrook High School. Her death remains under investigation. 

The suicide note included several negative comments posted on a video of Parker dancing from the waist down, a video Parker sent to someone days before her death. Part of her midriff was showing. 

“Someone said she was too dark," Yolanda Parker told the Sun-Times. "You’re too ugly. Stuff like that. People started saying, ‘you’re a ‘ho.’ In the hallways, people were calling her a 'bust down.'"

After Kenyatta Parker's death, her mother gained access to her Facebook page, where she found more nasty messages. 

“I left a message saying I would appreciate it if you would stop leaving posts," she told the Sun-Times. "For people to be saying this kind of stuff is not right. Kenyatta pretty much told me her life was ruined. This is not a joke."

Editor's note: It was previously reported that Kenyatta Parker was sexually abused by her father, based on a misread on the Sun-Times article. Parker did say she was sexually abused in her suicide note but did not say by who.

Read the full story about Kenyatta Parker's death from the Chicago Sun-Times. 

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Brittany March 23, 2013 at 01:21 PM
What on earth does a principal at a school have to do with a young girl killing herself? You are all insane. These comments should be in a totally different forum, like a school board meeting. The problem here is kids and parents! I hated my school years. Absolutely dreaded them. Kids are cruel. Parents don't instill proper morals in them. They go to school and go online and if they are jealous of someone they make fun of that person instead of doing the right thing. Or if someone isn't just like them, they trash them. Conformity is expected and anything else is harassed! These kids feel good about themselves or cool because they made someone else feel bad. The problems lay within your children. Stop complaining about a principal and sit down and talk to your children! This was an easily avoided situation. Shame on the bullies! And my thoughts are with the Parker family!
Jennifer Franke Cruz March 23, 2013 at 01:28 PM
So there was a tragedy and somehow, this is now the principals fault?? How ridiculous. stick to the issue at hand. a girl posted a video and kids put mean comments. those children are the bullies and their parents should be teaching them love and respect. as for Mr. White, his methods might not be the best but something needed to be done at that school. My son is now in college and BHS did a horrible job preparing him. I tried to tell him, there are no retakes in college or in life. there is no late work or partial credit. that school policy is just ridiculous. but back to the issue, this was a tragedy and my heart goes out to the mother and family.
amanda March 23, 2013 at 02:13 PM
This is so sad. My thoughts and prayers go out to the Parker family.
Judy McGhee March 23, 2013 at 02:45 PM
Re Mr White--Parents: Organize a group of you who have had a legitimate complaint about his behavior. Organize several "good" students who have had a similar experience. Go to a school board meeting & tell your experiences. Contact the school board president & request a private meeting with them to discuss your problems with Mr. White. If you are meeting with Mr. White, carry a small tape recorder or cell phone & record his tirades & behavior & play it for the school board. Don't just complain--do something. All school employees, no matter their position are employees of the people. They work for an are paid by the public taxpayers & they often need to be reminded of this. All school employees' conduct and actions should be examples for the children & public they serve. Browbeating, degrading, tyrannical behavior & fear DOES NOT teach or make a child learn and DOES NOT instill confidence in their parents!
Judy McGhee March 23, 2013 at 03:13 PM
I add to my previous : This man needs to be reminded who he works for & who pays his salary!--we taxpayers! I suspect some of his actions interfere in what is a teacher's job & teachers under him are too fearful to speak up! Some of you should have private conversations with teachers even though they might be afraid White will find out how they feel. He is obviously lacking training in conduct & how to be an administrator. TO PARENTS: Organize a group of you who have a legitimate complaint about hism. Organize several "good" students who have had a similar experience. Go to a school board meeting & tell your experiences. Contact the school board president & request a meeting with them to discuss your problems with Mr. White. If you are meeting with Mr. White, carry a tape recorder or cell phone & record his behavior & play it for the school board. Don't just complain--do something. All school employees, no matter their position are employees of the people. They work for & are paid by the taxpayers & they often need to be reminded of this. All school employees' conduct and actions should be examples for the children & public they serve. Browbeating, degrading, tyrannical behavior & fear DOES NOT teach or make a child learn and DOES NOT instill confidence in their parents! I worked 10 years in this district & if what you say is correct about this man's behavior, something should done! Maybe a confidential evaluation of him by the teachers?
Judy McGhee March 23, 2013 at 03:16 PM
This man needs to be reminded who he works for & who pays his salary!--we taxpayers! I suspect some of his actions interfere in what is a teacher's job & teachers under him are too fearful to speak up! Some of you should have private conversations with teachers even though they might be afraid White will find out how they feel. He is obviously lacking training in conduct & how to be an administrator. TO PARENTS: Organize a group of you who have a legitimate complaint about hism. Organize several "good" students who have had a similar experience. Go to a school board meeting & tell your experiences. Contact the school board president & request a meeting with them to discuss your problems with Mr. White. If you are meeting with Mr. White, carry a tape recorder or cell phone & record his behavior & play it for the school board. Don't just complain--do something. All school employees, no matter their position are employees of the people. They work for & are paid by the taxpayers & they often need to be reminded of this. All school employees' conduct and actions should be examples for the children & public they serve. Browbeating, degrading, tyrannical behavior & fear DOES NOT teach or make a child learn and DOES NOT instill confidence in their parents! I worked 10 years in this district & if what you say is correct about this man's behavior, something should done! Maybe a confidential evaluation of him by the teachers?
dilham3 March 23, 2013 at 04:31 PM
@ my opinion; Great points.......I see nothing wrong with a principle setting polices and rules through a firm hand. BHS is functioning so much better this year, I have a child who attends and he states its so much better this year. Real expectations have been set and the students are doing as expected.........which is be students.
dilham3 March 23, 2013 at 04:36 PM
Did you threaten him or any of the staff during the exchange? Was the suspension unfair?
Lettuce March 23, 2013 at 05:09 PM
Yolanda, please know that that comment was not intended for you! This is my third attempt to post this clarification, but my posts are being deleted. The comment that I left last evening was intened for Yvonne, for her claim that Mr. White tried to punch her. Her comments about Mr. White have nothing to do with Kenyatta! Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through. My hope in all of this is that more attention will be focused on cyber-bullying and the fact that parents need to talk with their children about this very topic. Kids get very brave and aggressive online, and the results are rarely positive. My your healing process begin by knowing that many care about you and your family, and that we are praying for you as you grieve the loss of your precious daughter..
Kaylynn Phillips March 23, 2013 at 05:45 PM
heey , im Kaylynn Phillips and im 15 also . yhu may know my grandpa Robert Herron and my grandma Delores Manson . My mom is Debra Phillips (yhur cousin) . but i jus wanna saay tht i am sooo soorrry for yhur lost . i neva got to meet her nd i neva met yhu . but its jis soo sad how these things happen . me and my mom are startin a group about these suicides . im very sorry about yhur daughter . she willl be missed and she is lovedd . were family no matter wht . i lovee yhu . -Kaylynn Phillips
Judy McGhee March 23, 2013 at 07:14 PM
Well said! Methods of the principal described by many here are more those of a bully rather than a respectful administrator providing instruction on appropriate conduct.
tom March 23, 2013 at 08:28 PM
Lettuce, I think that the point that Lori was making is that it's not OK for ANYONE to bully. If Mr White yells, screams, berates, insults, swears, threatens...students, he is acting as a bully. Or, do you think that it's OK because he's an authority figure? No one will know for sure if other students knew what was happening to Kenyatta but were afraid to tell anyone at BHS for fear that they would be called a liar.
harvey March 23, 2013 at 08:53 PM
So sorry for your loss
Ballseck Malone March 23, 2013 at 10:48 PM
Why aren't you approving my post? Tell me what is specifically wrong in my post/opinion regarding your TOS? Or, are you another one-sided media outlet? Sure hope you are decided to approve or not approve based only on your own opinion. That is not what properly trained news reporters do and you you are doing that. I will make sure people know about The Patch and how they operate.
Ballseck Malone March 23, 2013 at 10:50 PM
CORRECTION: Why aren't you approving my previous post? Tell me what is specifically wrong in my post/opinion regarding your TOS? Or, are you another one-sided media outlet? Sure hope you decided to approve or not approve based only on your own opinion. That is not what properly trained news reporters do and if you are doing that. I will make sure people know about The Patch and how they operate with bias.
Brook fan March 23, 2013 at 11:19 PM
These comments have gone off topic - surprise! Let me say that I have witnessed Mr. White in action and I applaud him. BHS has been ran by the students and it is finally being ran by an adult that wants the best for our students. You don't have to like his methods, but you do have to respect him. I feel happy and confident in sending my children to BHS because of Mr. White. He has not changed rules, he has just been enforcing what was already in place. Some of the students don't like to be told what to do and it is evident on where they get that attitude - from their parents.I have seen parents get in his face and be disrespectful. What kind of example does that set for the children? "Organize a group to protest the actions of Mr. White to the school board", why not organize a group to support him in giving our kids the best education that he can? Ask Mr. White why he enforces homework and you may be surprised at his answer. It isn't to just yell at the students and make them miserable, it is to instill a work ethic that all of the students need. The whole 90/10 policy and test retake policy was in place before Mr. White was hired. If you have a problem with it, take it to Mitchem. I don't think that policy sets our students up for success, but with the current board in place we don't have a say.Change is never easy so ask the hard questions before you assume the worst of someone. We needed drastic changes to our high school.
Jennifer Hutchings March 23, 2013 at 11:28 PM
First of all, I want to send out my deepest prayers to the Parker family. I am so sorry for your loss. I find it sad that a person, specially a child, thinks that suicide is the answer to a problem. My daughter was a close friend of Kenyatta an is devastated my this tragedy.
Jennifer Hutchings March 23, 2013 at 11:35 PM
I am not fond of Mr White myself, as I find his discipline methods, and teachings, to be a little extreme in some cases. If he truly is miss treating students and parents, then people have tp speak up to the board. He is a Principal of a High School full of young adults, and needs to treat as such. It is his job to make sure the students feel safe and secure, not inferriated by him or other faculty & students. I have had my outs with him myself, and feel he talks down to parents, so it would not surprise me if he treated the students the same way. This is wrong!!!! This is not the military.
Jennifer Hutchings March 23, 2013 at 11:36 PM
My daughter is a senior and an Honors student. Has never been in trouble in the 4 years she has been at BHS. She left school grounds, with permission, to get a pop adn when she returned, a student let her in a door as it was locked. Apparently is was a restricted door , and was not suppose to be used. She received a suspension because of it. Her choice was either 2 in school or 1 external days. I was not happy at all and found this to be very unneccesary of a punishment. I contacted her counselor and chose the external day myself. Rules need to be on a person by person basis. They treated her like she always gets in trouble and never obeys the rules. Why should all the good students have the same punishments as the bad ones. Cases like this, is where exceptions come in
Leslie March 24, 2013 at 01:38 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. My daughter was bullied in junior high at a private Christian school. It hurt me as well. I think the kids who took part in the bullying should receive some kind of punishment and their parents made aware of their actions. You are in my thoughts and prayers
Valerie Summers March 24, 2013 at 04:47 PM
This is about bullying!! That includes adults our kids are in contact with! That is how Whitegot brought into it! And Lettuce.....you are right, bubullets have the social sites to hide behind and not have to indulge their true identity. "LETTUCE"
tom March 25, 2013 at 01:48 PM
Brook Fan, There is a difference between discipline and bullying. I think that Mr White has crossed that line of several occasions. You say that he is only enforcing rules that were already in place. Can you point out where in the School Policy it says that the policy is to send students home for the day if they're late to class or if they did not do their homework? Do you really think that's a punishment? I know many parents that have taken it to Dr Mitchem. You might be surprised to hear what he has said. I think that Dr Mitchem has better things to do with his time than clean up the after Mr White.
Crazy Rock March 25, 2013 at 05:23 PM
It's unbelievable that people here want to focus on the principal and his "bullying" ways. This poor child died tragically, and no doubt she had issues in her life, but you're deluded if you think a bully principal caused this. But that's the mantra today, find a scapegoat to blame for everything. Parents become more enabling of their kids with each passing generation, and the kids more emboldened as they realize they can manipulate these soft parents into thinking their failures are the fault of teachers, bosses, the police, or anyone else they can use to deflect their own sense of entitlement. Maybe this principal is a little too harsh for your tastes, but I've got news for you. He would be the norm years ago, not the exception. What is lacking here is any sense of responsibility taken by kids and their parents. Teachers and principals are not there to coddle, they are there to prepare these kids for the big unfair world that is LIFE when they graduate. I want to vomit every time a parent believes "not my little angel" after their kid gets called out for something they did wrong. Wake up and grow a spine, parents.
dabrooklongtime March 25, 2013 at 11:01 PM
Why was my comment posted and then deleted?
dabrooklongtime March 25, 2013 at 11:04 PM
It really is amazing how off topic this is permitted to get and slanderous but how certain comments are posted, then disappear. If I were mr. White, id sue this online joke of a "newspaper" for promoting slander. Yelling and bullying are two different things.
dabrooklongtime March 25, 2013 at 11:13 PM
After being censored by the patch and its political agenda...im not sure if it was because I mentioned faith or mentioned ms. Hutchings would probably be the first to complain if there was a security breach at bhs but feels entitled enough to say her daughter shouldn't be held accountable, or was it me stating the obvious. Teens shouldn't be using social networks and kanyatta didn't confide in her family or friends either...maybe they were bullying her then according to everyone on here who believe mr white bullied her so she didn't report herself as a victim....hmmmm. what I have to say is censored while others can berade a person on her and have comments left up that may or may not be true
dabrooklongtime March 25, 2013 at 11:15 PM
The patch is the jerry springer of online reporting...give a "news story" and then spin it for entertainment
Yolanda Parker March 26, 2013 at 03:27 PM
This is crazy... My daughter is gone. . Do you understand? Gone. .. For people to constantly leave outrageous comments from Mr White being a bully, to saying if my daughter didnt have social media this wouldn't have happened is so hurtful, and quite frankly insensitive. This was my 15 year old precious, precious, daughter. How would you feel if it were your daughter or son hanging in a garage senselessly because of things people say or said.. so hurtful.. My pain is real, this was and is my only daughter, and I will not allow negative comments tarnish my daughter's memory or legacy because of what you think you know about her, what she said or didn't say in life. What matters now is where we go from here, and how we can help other adults, teens, and bullies realize that this is real and if not corrected it leads to very deep and permanent effects
Yolanda Parker March 26, 2013 at 03:34 PM
To all of you who have prayed for our family, sent condolences, donated, cared, hugged, and thought of us, big or small.. Thank you, very, very, much!
Melissa Sersland (Editor) March 26, 2013 at 06:11 PM
Yolanda, thank you for sharing your story. You are an incredible woman, and you will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. I'm going to close the comments for this article. Thank you everyone for your comments. If you want to send a letter to the editor regarding BHS, please send it to me at melissa.sersland@patch.com.

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